Category: Dealing with Insecurity

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NOT SO ‘MAGIC MIKE’: ARE WOMEN BECOMING THE MEN WE DESPISE?

by Katina Hubbard

Last night, I accidentally saw ‘Magic Mike.’ I don’t know how I missed the trailer for this little film that has sent American women into some sort of sexual frenzy, but I thought I was seeing a romantic comedy where someone has amnesia. If you’re like me and you had no idea this movie existed, you probably do now, since it was front page of the New York Times’ Art Section and at the top of the box office charts this weekend.

Are images of male models as harmful for men’s self-esteem as images of women are for us?

It’s the classic tale of the poor girl with nowhere to turn except to shake her naked ass for money. She enjoys it, and so does the audience, but in the end gets saved from a life of meaningless sex and drug overdoses by a normal Joe-turned Prince Charming. Except in ‘Magic Mike,’ the poor girl who needs saving isn’t a girl, it’s America’s male heartthrob, Channing Tatum.

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75 Years After Amelia Earhart: Are You Battling Your Own Beauty?

One of history’s most courageous and successful women: losing face to her freckles

by Katina Hubbard

The recent discovery of Amelia Earhart’s freckle cream sheds light on her mysterious disappearance…and on American women’s legacy of hating our bodies!

Freckle cream? Amelia Earhart, the first woman to complete a trans-Atlantic flight and attempt to fly around the world, was trying to get rid of her FRECKLES!?!

So much so that she included the cream in her must-bring bag when she attempted to fly around the world?

Not only do I think she is drop dead gorgeous, but she was one of the most empowered woman in history: a talented, brave, and bold explorer of human limits in a world where women were intended for bearing children and stirring pots. Who gives a f*$k about her freckles?

She did. And we all do…

Turn Off Autopilot: Inequality Is Our Reality

Unfortunately, disguises won’t get us into office. The United States ranks 81st in the world with respect to women representation in government.

by Katina Hubbard

I’m committed to keeping this website about love and being loved. I believe making concerted efforts to heal and grow ourselves and our relationships is one of the most powerful things we can do to change the world.

HOWEVER. When someone else does the ranting, especially an articulate, well-informed, and inspiring man, I give him mad props. Here are excerpts from Yahsar Ali’s recent article about the state of women in the western world. I hear the message loud and clear: If I stop noticing that I live in a world where men are more often in power, making the rules, and making more money, I’m perpetuating the problem. My awareness of gender inequality is a crucial step to changing the world for myself and my children.

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Being Loved from the Inside Out

by Katina Hubbard

We know what it feels like to be loved by our parents, friends, and/or significant others. But what does it feel like to be loved from the inside out?

At a young age, I learned how to ‘play small’

I grew up as a “pretty” girl. I was skinny, with a nice complexion, and had fortunate genetic makeup from 16 generations of white men fathering children with Native-American and African-American women.

And I remember feeling beautiful. I danced in public without fear of judgment. I ran around the beach in a swimsuit without noticing my bare skin. I crouched by the creek to find frogs without wondering if I was normal. I felt beautiful because I had no definition of what beautiful was. I was just me.

This is how we all start out, every one of us. We come out of the womb exactly perfect. All unique, but generally accepted as cute, adorable, and lovable. Then at some point, someone clues us into what “beautiful” is. Whether it’s at age 4 when someone points at our belly hanging over our tutu, or at age 3 when we compare ourselves to our Barbie dolls, or when we’re even younger and we intuitively hear the silent thoughts of others comparing us to a standard definition of “beauty.”